I am so tempted to...

Ada saat dalam hari2 gw, di mana gw terpancing banget buat mengeluh.

Cape, bosen, sakit kepala, lemes, mual, sakit badan, sebel, begah, pusing, dan sederet keluhan yang pasti ngga ada habisnya.
Kadang pengen sekali berteriak.. "What the hell with every positive theory yang pernah gw denger/ gw tahu! Emang ngga boleh kadang-kadang gw memanjakan perasaan gw sendiri...?"

Tapi setiap kata-kata di atas terlepas dari mulut gw... gw merefleksikan, efek apa yang terjadi setelah gw melepaskan kata-kata itu?
Apakah semua masalah selesai dalam sekejab?
Apakah setelah itu hati terasa damai?
Apakah benar setiap lelah di badan terasa berkurang setelah itu?
Apakah kata-kata itu mendatangkan berkat bagi diri kita, dan orang-orang di sekitar kita?

Buat gw... rasanya tidak...
malah yang ada, kadang gw jadi terlarut dalam suasana pesimis, apatis, dan jadi menjurus ke depresi, secara gw mendapati diri gw ini gampang sekali depresi.
Saat seperti ini, badan gw lagi capeeee banget. Bawaannya pengen ada di tempat tidur gw/ tempat tidur di hotel di manaaaa gitu...., makan di tempat tidur, baca buku, ngopi, browsing, siangan dikit spa terus massage... kl bisa 1 mgg gitu... :-)
(kl suami gw baca ini, pasti dia geleng2 kepala membayangkan betapa tidak efektifnya gw hehehe...).. tapi yang ada setiap hari ya harus ketemu pasien.

I have no complain! (biarpun tergoda... hehehe)
Gw percaya semua ini adalah berkat. Hari ini gw bisa kerja, pasien berdatangan itu adalah berkat.
Hari ini setelah dari klinik bisa berbajaj ria nyusul suami gw yang lagi ngerjain kerjaannya dari Starbucks Pluit Junction (thans to free wifi!) itu juga berkat.
Apapun yang terjadi dalam kehidupan gw, semuanya pasti mendatangkan kebaikan.
Gw percaya semua yang gw butuhkan akan menghampiri gw. It's just a matter of time.
I am happy with my life, i have a very good hubby, one small angel with the tail, 2 side of parents, one little brother, a lot of brother and sister in Christ... kadang... gw ngga merasa layak untuk memanjakan diri gw dengan sebuah (atau banyak) keluhan.

Just give me stregth my dear lord, give me Your mercy.. so I can be greatfull and free of worry everyday. That I can depend on Your kindness day by day.
buat gw ini bener-bener tantangan hehehe...

Do You Have a Difficult Person in Your Life?

“Lord, help me to bless people today.”

That’s my daily morning prayer… uh, when I’m happy.

And usually, I am.

But once in awhile, I don’t wake up happy.

And usually, it’s because of a difficult person in my life.

That’s when I pray, “Lord, how can I bless this… this… this… creature?”

I’m a very patient person, so this doesn’t happen too often.

But it happens.

Friend, do you have a difficult person in your life?

And do you sometimes want to pray, “Lord, if you will allow it, let a 50,000 megawatt bolt of lightning strike (Name of Difficult Person) right now. Not to kill him, Lord. Just enough to wake him up and give him second degree burns. Just kidding Lord, but with all due respect, what were you thinking when you created this pathological human being? I don’t want to sound offensive, but were you sleeping on the job when you created this creature? He’s a mess. He’s a composite of all the villains of Spiderman put together….”

Do you sometimes wonder if this difficult person heard God in the middle of the night say, “My child, your ultimate mission in life is to be difficult. That’s the entire purpose of your existence. You shall be the thorn in someone’s flesh. Do everything in your power to annoy him. Be irresponsible. Or be demanding. Or be totally negative. Or be selfish. Or be constantly angry. Or be possessive. Or be always depressed. It doesn’t matter. Your objective is to make his life hell on earth.”

Yes, I must admit that I don’t like a few unlovable characters here and there, but generally, I think the Almighty has done a fantastic job inventing human beings.

I also believe that God allows difficult people to come into our lives to give us very special gifts. What could these gifts be?

I’m going to try something new today. Instead of writing down what these gifts are, I’m going to ask YOU to write them on the comments below. Write your thoughts and experiences and share them to the world. Thousands will be reading them. And in my next email next week, I’ll tell you what I think they are…

Cool?

Thank you!

May your dreams come true,

Bo Sanchez

My Journey as A Medical Doctor

Perjalanan perkenalan saya dengan dunia kedokteran dimulai bulan Agustus 1991. Saat itu saya menjadi mahasiswi tingkat pertama dari sebuah Universitas di Jakarta. Fakultas Kedokteran Universitas Katolik Atmajaya.

Tahun-tahun belajar di sana, memberikan ilmu dasar dan sensasi awal rasanya memakai jas putih dan dipanggil dengan sapaan "Dok...!"

Rasanya demikian melambung tinggi, dan berbagai idealisme tentang pendidikan, pengobatan, dan pasien rasanya meluap di hati dan otak saya.
Sampai dari waktu ke waktu... semuanya itu mulai pupus perlahan. Kenyataan demi kenyataan mengajarkan saya untuk tidak membawa kesulitan masa depan dalam 1 hari, dan kembali melihat perjalanan saya menjadi seorang dokter adalah perjalanan kemanusiaan.

Akhirnya Juli 2000 saya melakukan sumpah profesi. 9 tahun berlalu dengan 2 1/2 tahun proses ngantri untuk masuk ke coas dan ujian negara, serta 6 1/2 tahun masa pendidikan. Dan waktu itu saya memutuskan untuk bekerja dulu di salah satu perusahaan farmasi sambil menunggu panggilan PTT. Tetapi karier yang membaik membuat saya sempat melupakan impian untuk praktek. Sampai satu hari saya menyadari... bertemu pasien adlah hidup saya.Melihat mereka membaik dari waktu ke waktu adalah impian saya. Dan membuat mereka tersenyum bahagia adalah tujuan keilmuan saya.

Kekecewaan demi kekecewaan mendera. Dan saya memutuskan, harus keluar dari dunia farmasi sebelum saya malu mengakui diri saya sebagai dokter. Politik perdagangan obat, kerjasama dokter dan farmasi yang makin lama makin tidak masuk akal, pemakaian obat yang sangat tidak relevan, semua membuat saya memiliki cara pandang yang mungkin extreem dan sulit diterima oleh teman sejawat lainnya.

Dan sampailah saya pada pengenalan akan Biophysic Medicine. Satu ilmu komplementer yang membuka wawasan baru dalam dunia kedokteran saya. Membawa pikiran saya "out of the box" dan melihat betapa tubuh manusia adalah ciptaan Tuhan yang luar biasa.
Dulu di dunia kedokteran konvensional, tidak habisnya saya berdecak kagum.
Hari ini... tidak habisnya saya mensyukuri... keberadaan saya di dunia yang sarat dengan keajaiban dan kebesaran. Dari yang terlihat sampai yang tidak terlihat. Dari yang terjangkau, sampai yang tidak terjangkau. Dan semuanya itu... ingin saya persembahkan untuk kemanusiaan.
Kalau dari awal... semuanya adalah satu impian untuk kemanusiaan, biarlah semua proses ini juga dapat membantu banyak orang... untuk dapat memaknai dan mensyukuri kehidupannya.

Quotes from Medical World:

In nothing do men more nearly approach the gods than in giving health to men. ~Cicero

The greatest mistake in the treatment of diseases is that there are physicians for the body and physicians for the soul, although the two cannot be separated. ~Plato

Body and soul cannot be separated for purposes of treatment, for they are one and indivisible. Sick minds must be healed as well as sick bodies. ~C. Jeff Miller

In the sick room, ten cents' worth of human understanding equals ten dollars' worth of medical science. ~Martin H. Fischer

It is a mathematical fact that fifty percent of all doctors graduate in the bottom half of their class. ~Author Unknown

Restore a man to his health, his purse lies open to thee. ~Robert Burton

I got the bill for my surgery. Now I know what those doctors were wearing masks for. ~James H. Boren

A hospital should also have a recovery room adjoining the cashier's office. ~Francis O'Walsh

Did God who gave us flowers and trees,
Also provide the allergies?
~E.Y. Harburg, "A Nose Is a Nose Is a Nose," 1965

I learned a long time ago that minor surgery is when they do the operation on someone else, not you. ~Bill Walton

It is a wise mans part, rather to avoid sickness, than to wishe for medicines. ~Thomas More, Utopia [sic]

I wondher why ye can always read a doctor's bill an' ye niver can read his purscription. ~Finley Peter Dunne

You have a cough? Go home tonight, eat a whole box of Ex-Lax - tomorrow you'll be afraid to cough. ~Pearl Williams

To array a man's will against his sickness is the supreme art of medicine. ~Henry Ward Beecher

A doctor whose breath smells has no right to medical opinion. ~Martin H. Fischer

Surgeons must be very careful
When they take the knife!
Underneath their fine incisions
Stirs the Culprit - Life!
~Emily Dickinson

It is a good thing for a physician to have prematurely grey hair and itching piles. The first makes him appear to know more than he does, and the second gives him an expression of concern which the patient interprets as being on his behalf. ~A. Benson Cannon

A doctor who cannot take a good history and a patient who cannot give one are in danger of giving and receiving bad treatment. ~Author Unknown

One thousand Americans stop smoking every day - by dying. ~Author Unknown

A hypochondriac is one who has a pill for everything except what ails him. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic's Notebook, 1966

The art of medicine consists in amusing the patient while nature cures the disease. ~Voltaire

A doctor must work eighteen hours a day and seven days a week. If you cannot console yourself to this, get out of the profession. ~Martin H. Fischer

It is sometimes as dangerous to be run into by a microbe as by a trolley car. ~J.J. Walsh

Every disease is a physician. ~Irish Proverb

God heales, and the Physitian hath the thankes. ~George Herbert, Outlandish Proverbs

Drugs are not always necessary. Belief in recovery always is. ~Norman Cousins

I firmly believe that if the whole materia medica could be sunk to the bottom of the sea, it would be all the better for mankind and all the worse for the fishes. ~Oliver Wendell Holmes

There is no curing a sick man who believes himself to be in health. ~Henri Amiel

Doctors think a lot of patients are cured who have simply quit in disgust. ~Don Herold

The only equipment lack in the modern hospital? Somebody to meet you at the entrance with a handshake! ~Martin H. Fischer

The worst thing about medicine is that one kind makes another necessary. ~Elbert Hubbard

When you are called to a sick man, be sure you know what the matter is - if you do not know, nature can do a great deal better than you can guess. ~Nicholas de Belleville

Throw physic to the dogs; I'll none of it. ~William Shakespeare

I recently became a Christian Scientist. It was the only health plan I could afford. ~Betsy Salkind

Poisons and medicine are oftentimes the same substance given with different intents. ~Peter Mere Latham

In the nineteenth century men lost their fear of God and acquired a fear of microbes. ~Author Unknown

Symptoms, then are in reality nothing but the cry from suffering organs. ~Jean Martin Charcot, translated from French

I never read a patent medicine advertisement without being impelled to the conclusion that I am suffering from the particular disease therein dealt with in its most virulent form. ~Jerome K. Jerome, Three Men in a Boat

Diagnosis is not the end, but the beginning of practice. ~Martin H. Fischer

The physician should look upon the patient as a besieged city and try to rescue him with every means that art and science place at his command. ~Alexander of Tralles

Physicians and politicians resemble one another in this respect, that some defend the constitution and others destroy it. ~Author Unknown

A smart mother makes often a better diagnosis than a poor doctor. ~August Bier

When fate arrives the physician becomes a fool. ~Arabic Proverb

Medicines are not meat to live by. ~German Proverb

Treat the patient, not the Xray. ~James M. Hunter

God and the Doctor we alike adore
But only when in danger, not before;
The danger o'er, both are alike requited,
God is forgotten, and the Doctor slighted.
~Robert Owen

Financial ruin from medical bills is almost exclusively an American disease. ~Roul Turley

The hospital is the only proper College in which to rear a true disciple of Aesculapius. ~John Abernethy

A man who cannot work without his hypodermic needle is a poor doctor. The amount of narcotic you use is inversely proportional to your skill. ~Martin H. Fischer

Better to hunt in fields, for health unbought,
Than fee the doctor for a nauseous draught,
The wise, for cure, on exercise depend;
God never made his work for man to mend.
~John Dryden

Medicine is the only profession that labours incessantly to destroy the reason for its own existence. ~James Bryce, 1914

It is not a case we are treating; it is a living, palpitating, alas, too often suffering fellow creature. ~John Brown

The patient does not care about your science; what he wants to know is, can you cure him? ~Martin H. Fischer

Medicines heals doubts as well as diseases. ~Karl Marx

A physician is obligated to consider more than a diseased organ, more even than the whole man - he must view the man in his world. ~Harvey Cushing

Medicine sometimes snatches away health, sometimes gives it. ~Ovid, Tristia

As it takes two to make a quarrel, so it takes two to make a disease, the microbe and its host. ~Charles V. Chapin

Disease is war with the laws of our being, and all war, as a great general has said, is hell. ~Lewis G. Janes

Until a physician has killed one or two he is not a physician. ~Kashmiri Proverb

No man is a good doctor who has never been sick himself. ~Chinese Proverb

Only one rule in medical ethics need concern you - that action on your part which best conserves the interests of your patient. ~Martin H. Fischer

To me the ideal doctor would be a man endowed with profound knowledge of life and of the soul, intuitively divining any suffering or disorder of whatever kind, and restoring peace by his mere presence. ~Henri Amiel

Medicinal discovery,
It moves in mighty leaps,
It leapt straight past the common cold
And give it us for keeps.
~Pam Ayres

When you no longer know what headache, heartache, or stomachache means without cistern punctures, electrocardiograms and six x-ray plates, you are slipping. ~Martin H. Fischer

It is easy to get a thousand prescriptions but hard to get one single remedy. ~Chinese Proverb

Never forget that it is not a pneumonia, but a pneumonic man who is your patient. ~William Withey Gull

It is said to be the manner of hypochondriacs to change often their physician. ~William Cullen, Practice of Physic

The road to medical knowledge is through the pathological museum and not through an apothecary's shop. ~William Withey Gull

A Short History of Medicine
2000 B.C. - "Here, eat this root."
1000 B.C. - "That root is heathen, say this prayer."
1850 A.D. - "That prayer is superstition, drink this potion."
1940 A.D. - "That potion is snake oil, swallow this pill."
1985 A.D. - "That pill is ineffective, take this antibiotic."
2000 A.D. - "That antibiotic is artificial. Here, eat this root."
~Author Unknown

When a lot of remedies are suggested for a disease, that means it cannot be cured. ~Anton Chekhov, The Cherry Orchard

A half doctor near is better than a whole one far away. ~German Proverb

No doctor is better than three. ~German Proverb

I will lift mine eyes unto the pills. Almost everyone takes them, from the humble aspirin to the multi-coloured, king-sized three deckers, which put you to sleep, wake you up, stimulate and soothe you all in one. It is an age of pills. ~Malcolm Muggeridge, 1962

Man may be the captain of his fate, but is also the victim of his blood sugar. ~Wilfrid G. Oakley

Faith and knowledge lean largely upon each other in the practice of medicine. ~Peter Mere Latham

Each patient ought to feel somewhat the better after the physician's visit, irrespective of the nature of the illness. ~Warfield Theobald Longcope

Who ever thought up the word "Mammogram?" Every time I hear it, I think I'm supposed to put my breast in an envelope and send it to someone. ~Jan King
Never go to a doctor whose office plants have died. ~Erma Bombeck
You may know the intractability of a disease by its long list of remedies. ~Alonzo Clark

Here's good advice for practice: go into partnership with nature; she does more than half the work and asks none of the fee. ~Martin H. Fischer

Varicose veins are the result of an improper selection of grandparents. ~William Osler

If you are too smart to pay the doctor, you had better be too smart to get ill. ~African Proverb

When you treat a disease, first treat the mind. ~Chen Jen

Symptoms are the body's mother tongue; signs are in a foreign language. ~John Brown

The doctor of the future will give no medicine but will interest his patients in the care of the human frame, in diet and in the cause and prevention of disease. ~Thomas Edison

Oh the powers of nature. She knows what we need, and the doctors know nothing. ~Benvenuto Cellini

So many come to the sickroom thinking of themselves as men of science fighting disease and not as healers with a little knowledge helping nature to get a sick man well. ~Auckland Geddes, The Practitioner

Where a man feels pain he lays his hand. ~Dutch Proverb

The doctor is often more to be feared than the disease. ~French Proverb

Despite all our toil and progress, the art of medicine still falls somewhere between trout casting and spook writing. ~Ben Hecht, Miracle of the Fifteen Murderers

The Lord hath created medicines out of the earth; and he that is wise will not abhor them. ~Ecclesiasticus 38:4

A drug is that substance which, when injected into a rat, will produce a scientific report. ~Author Unknown

Cancer is a word, not a sentence. ~John Diamond

The medicalization of early diagnosis not only hampers and discourages preventative health-care but it also trains the patient-to-be to function in the meantime as an acolyte to his doctor. He learns to depend on the physician in sickness and in health. He turns into a life-long patient. ~Ivan Illich

Patients may recover in spite of drugs or because of them. ~J.H. Gaddum

He's the best physician that knows the worthlessness of the most medicines. ~Benjamin Franklin

Physiology is the stepchild of medicine. That is why Cinderella often turns out the queen. ~Martin H. Fischer

The field of Western medicine has become literally nothing but medicine. Doctors are on their way out, to be replaced by self-serve pharmaceutical vending machines. ~Grey Livingston

The fact that your patient gets well does not prove that your diagnosis was correct. ~Samuel J. Meltzer

Man is a creature composed of countless millions of cells: a microbe is composed of only one, yet throughout the ages the two have been in ceaseless conflict. ~A.B. Christie

Our profession is the only one which works unceasingly to annihilate itself. ~Martin H. Fischer

On J-Day our profession will have a lot to answer for! We might at least have withheld our hands instead of making them work against God. ~Martin H. Fischer

The doctor may also learn more about the illness from the way the patient tells the story than from the story itself. ~James B. Herrick

Don't think of organ donations as giving up part of yourself to keep a total stranger alive. It's really a total stranger giving up almost all of themselves to keep part of you alive. ~Author Unknown

Most of those evils we poor mortals know
From doctors and imagination flow.
~Charles Churchill

Men are not going to embrace eugenics. They are going to embrace the first likely, trim-figured girl with limpid eyes and flashing teeth who comes along, in spite of the fact that her germ plasm is probably reeking with hypertension, cancer, haemophilia, colour blindness, hay fever, epilepsy, and amyotrophic lateral sclerosis. ~Logan Clendening

Don't take your organs to heaven with you. Heaven knows we need them here. ~Author unknown, attributed to both Dan and Barbara Hladio and Thomas Boyadjis, Sr.

'Tis not always in a physician's power to cure the sick; at times the disease is stronger than trained art. ~Ovid

And lo, The Hospital, grey, quiet, old, Where Life and Death like friendly chafferers meet. ~William Ernest Henley

For the most part, Western medicine doctors are not healers, preventers, listeners, or educators. But they're damned good at saving a life and the other aspects kick the beam. It's about time we brought some balance back to the scale. ~Claire Todae

A sweating ovary or a sick prostate explains most history. ~Martin H. Fischer

The only weapon with which the unconscious patient can immediately retaliate upon the incompetent surgeon is hemorrhage. ~William Stewart Halsted

The public blabbers about preventative medicine, but will neither appreciate nor pay for it. You get paid for what you cure. ~Martin H. Fischer

To save a man's life against his will is the same as killing him. ~Horace

Nowadays the clinical history too often weighs more than the man. ~Martin H. Fischer

Hypochondriacs squander large sums of time in search of nostrums by which they vainly hope they may get more time to squander. ~Mortimer Collins

One doctor makes work for another. ~English Proverb

Doctors are just the same as lawyers; the only difference is that lawyers merely rob you, whereas doctors rob you and kill you, too. ~Anton Chekhov, Ivanov

Let the young know they will never find a more interesting, more instructive book than the patient himself. ~Giorgio Baglivi

Formerly, when religion was strong and science weak, men mistook magic for medicine; now, when science is strong and religion weak, men mistake medicine for magic. ~Thomas Szasz, The Second Sin, 1973

Jovan: He brings Joy to Our Life

Lagi main ciluk ba di Bumi Joglo Dago Pakar - Jovan lagi nemenin mama papa nya pelayanan di Lembang. Dari kecil ud diajak-ajak pelayanan, karena targetnya... jadi uskup ya Van hehehe...
Yang lucu... dulu awal2 Jovan manggil gw mommy... gw ngga pernah noleh karena ngga biasa. Apalagi si riko hhihihihi...

First day at Manado (1)

2 ½ tahun lalu terakhir gw datang ke kota ini. Sebelum-sebelumnya hampir setiap tahun gw ‘pulang’ ke Manado.

Gw bukan berasal dari Manado, tapi sejak kedatangan gw yang pertama kali di Natal tahun 1999 dan merayakan millennium baru tahun 2000 di satu tempat di daerah Komo dalam, gw seperti memasuki babak baru dalam kehidupan gw yang membawa gw pada pelajaran baru dalam hidup dan membuat gw merasa dekat dengan kota ini sampai sekarang.

26 Desember 1999, gw mendarat untuk pertama kalinya di Manado. Gw ingat sekali keadaan gw waktu itu. Sedih, frustasi, takut, depresi, marah, merasa seperti sampah yang dibuang di tempat yang dipastikan tidak ada yang dapat memungut sampah itu dan sangat tentu saja merasa seperti perempuan yang sangat bodoh!

Waktu gw landing dan melihat hamparan pohon kelapa yang ada di perbukitan Manado, gw berkata dalam hati,”Tuhan… ke hutan mana Engkau buang aku sekarang?”… yang terbayang waktu itu, seperti ada film kartun di kepala gw, rasanya gw seperti ditendang dan melayang dari kepulauan Jawa dan mental sampai ke bagian Utara pulau Sulawesi. Semuanya begitu kosong dan menakutkan… mana waktu itu gw belum dapat tempat tinggal dan belum tahu di mana gw bisa berteduh.

Tetapi … siapa yang menyangka, setelah waktu berlalu kota ini memberikan banyak bukti akan penyelenggaraan tangan Tuhan atas kehidupan gw. Setiap tapak kaki yang gw jejakan di tanah kota ini menyaksikan kemurahan dan kesetiaan Tuhan dalam kehidupan gw.

Kota ini mengajarkan gw untuk memahami bahwa:

- luka adalah kurikulum sekolah hidup yang baik,

- rasa sepi adalah pelajaran untuk menikmati keberadaan dirimu sendiri

- hadirnya setiap orang (biarpun dia asing) adalah malaikat penjaga yang dikirim dari surga

- waktu adalah sahabat setia yang mendewasakan

- dan air mata (syukur) adalah pembersih dan desinfektan luka

Dan 7 ½ tahun kemudian, gw balik ke kota ini. Waktu gw landing dan melihat hamparan pohon kelapa yang ada di perbukitan Manado, dan kembali gw berkata hati, “Tuhan… Hutan ini terasa melambaikan tangannya kepadaku… menyapa selamat datang kembali!”

Hari ini gw datang dengan Tante gw, dengan misi mencari investor untuk usaha yang sedang kami jalani bersama. Usaha yang gw jalankan juga dengan suami gw (yang 7 ½ tahun lalu, gw tidak mampu berpikir baik tentang suami gw selain kebencian), dan akan bertemu dengan investor2 yang di arrange oleh mantan cowok gw waktu di Manado (yang 7 ½ tahun lalu menjadi sasaran luka gw…).

to be continued...

After 3 years... and I still crying...

Hari ini ngga sengaja gw nemu DVD yang gw ambil dari rumah nyokap beberapa waktu yang lalu. Krn gambar depannya adalah gambar Andre Boceli, gw pikir itu CD klasik biasa.
Ternyata gw ngga liat tulisan di bawahnya: Credo John Paul II. Gw putarlah sambil masih berpikir itu CD lagu. Dan ternyata itu adalah satu DVD remembering the late John Paul II.
And alhasil... tadinya mau kerja sambil dengerin lagu... yang terjadi malah.. gw beruraian air mata di depan komputer.

3 tahun berlalu dari kepergian my dearest Papa. Gw belum pernah kehilangan seumur hidup gw. Orang tua dan mertua gw masih lengkap, belum ada orang terdekat yang pergi meninggalkan gw untuk selamanya. Dan gw juga bukan tipe orang yang mudah merasa dekat dengan seseorang.
Tapi itu tidak berlaku untuk my forever pope in my heart... The late John Paul II.
Gw masih belum bisa menahan air mata yang keluar bila melihat dia, di manapun itu ditayangkan. His life is a legacy for me. And forever I thank God for his presence in my life. Setiap yang dia lakukan rasanya menyirami hati gw dengan kasih. Senyumnya, lambaian tangannya, setiap kata-kata yang diucapkan penuh passion, dan setiap pengorbanan dan silih yang ia lakukan untuk dunia, mengingatkan gw terus untuk menjadi seseorang yang meninggalkan jejas kasih terutama bagi sesama dan gereja.

Here are some of his quotes... love you (and miss you!) Papa and please pray for me always from above!

An excuse is worse and more terrible than a lie,
for an excuse is a lie guarded.

As the family goes, so goes the nation and so goes the whole world in which we live.

Do not abandon yourselves to despair. We are the Easter people and hallelujah is our song.

Freedom consists not in doing what we like, but in having the right to do what we ought.

From now on it is only through a conscious choice and through a deliberate policy that humanity can survive.

Have no fear of moving into the unknown. Simply step out fearlessly knowing that I am with you, therefore no harm can befall you; all is very, very well. Do this in complete faith and confidence.

Humanity should question itself, once more, about the absurd and always unfair phenomenon of war, on whose stage of death and pain only remain standing the negotiating table that could and should have prevented it.

I have a sweet tooth for song and music. This is my Polish sin.

I hope to have communion with the people, that is the most important thing.

I kiss the soil as if I placed a kiss on the hands of a mother, for the homeland is our earthly mother. I consider it my duty to be with my compatriots in this sublime and difficult moment.

Love is never defeated, and I could add, the history of Ireland proves it.

Marriage is an act of will that signifies and involves a mutual gift, which unites the spouses and binds them to their eventual souls, with whom they make up a sole family - a domestic church.

Pervading nationalism imposes its dominion on man today in many different forms and with an aggressiveness that spares no one. The challenge that is already with us is the temptation to accept as true freedom what in reality is only a new form of slavery.

Radical changes in world politics leave America with a heightened responsibility to be, for the world, an example of a genuinely free, democratic, just and humane society.

Science can purify religion from error and superstition. Religion can purify science from idolatry and false absolutes.

Social justice cannot be attained by violence. Violence kills what it intends to create.

Stupidity is also a gift of God, but one mustn't misuse it.

The cemetery of the victims of human cruelty in our century is extended to include yet another vast cemetery, that of the unborn.

The future starts today, not tomorrow.

The great danger for family life, in the midst of any society whose idols are pleasure, comfort and independence, lies in the fact that people close their hearts and become selfish.

The historical experience of socialist countries has sadly demonstrated that collectivism does not do away with alienation but rather increases it, adding to it a lack of basic necessities and economic inefficiency.

The question confronting the Church today is not any longer whether the man in the street can grasp a religious message, but how to employ the communications media so as to let him have the full impact of the Gospel message.

The United Nations organization has proclaimed 1979 as the Year of the Child. Are the children to receive the arms race from us as a necessary inheritance?

The unworthy successor of Peter who desires to benefit from the immeasurable wealth of Christ feels the great need of your assistance, your prayers, your sacrifice, and he most humbly asks this of you.

The vow of celibacy is a matter of keeping one's word to Christ and the Church. a duty and a proof of the priest's inner maturity; it is the expression of his personal dignity.

There are people and nations, Mother, that I would like to say to you by name. I entrust them to you in silence, I entrust them to you in the way that you know best.

To maintain a joyful family requires much from both the parents and the children. Each member of the family has to become, in a special way, the servant of the others.

Today, for the first time in history, a Bishop of Rome sets foot on English soil. This fair land, once a distant outpost of the pagan world, has become, through the preaching of the Gospel, a beloved and gifted portion of Christ's vineyard.

Violence and arms can never resolve the problems of men.

War is a defeat for humanity.

Wars generally do not resolve the problems for which they are fought and therefore... prove ultimately futile.

What we talked about will have to remain a secret between him and me. I spoke to him as a brother whom I have pardoned and who has my complete trust.

When freedom does not have a purpose, when it does not wish to know anything about the rule of law engraved in the hearts of men and women, when it does not listen to the voice of conscience, it turns against humanity and society.

You are our dearly beloved brothers, and in a certain way, it could be said that you are our elder brothers.

You are priests, not social or political leaders. Let us not be under the illusion that we are serving the Gospel through an exaggerated interest in the wide field of temporal problems.

You will reciprocally promise love, loyalty and matrimonial honesty. We only want for you this day that these words constitute the principle of your entire life and that with the help of divine grace you will observe these solemn vows that today, before God, you formulate.

Young people are threatened... by the evil use of advertising techniques that stimulate the natural inclination to avoid hard work by promising the immediate satisfaction of every desire.

Terapi Bioresonansi Atasi Alergi tanpa Obat - dari Koran Pikiran Rakyat

PERNAHKAH Anda mengalami kulit memerah dan gatal-gatal setelah mengenakan jam tangan atau gelang dari logam? Atau gejala itu terasa usai menyantap “seafood” misalnya? Sangat memungkinkan Anda alergi terhadap zat tertentu. Kalau cuma gatal tak mengapa, tetapi jika alergi nyaris membawa kita ke liang lahat, nanti dulu. Syukurlah kini ada cara menyembuhkan alergi tanpa obat-obatan.

Saat ini kita hidup di lingkungan yang sudah banyak tercemar. Kegiatan industri dan kendaraan bermotor membuat polusi udara, ditambah lagi dengan berbagai bahan kimia yang bisa meracuni tubuh yang terdapat dalam makanan maupun benda di sekitar kita. Hal-hal tersebut dapat menjadi pemicu terjadinya gangguan kesehatan, terutama bagi orang-orang yang sensitif. Banyak penyakit yang tidak berasal hanya dari virus, namun karena seseorang dikategorikan sangat rentan terhadap beberapa jenis benda alias alergi.

Bertambah buruknya polusi membuat angka penderita alergi di Indonesia kian meningkat. Sebuah penelitian yang dilakukan oleh Dr. Heru Sundaru dari RSCM/FKUI menunjukkan, angka penderita asma di Indonesia mencapai 8,2%, alergi hidung 17,5%, dan eksim 2,5-4%. Semua ini disebabkan oleh alergi yang penyebabnya dapat bermacam-macam, seperti interaksi antara faktor genetik, pola hidup, dan lingkungan.

Angka pasti penderita alergi di Indonesia dari tahun ke tahun belum jelas. Akan tetapi, menurut beberapa ahli, insiden alergi meningkat dalam 10 tahun terakhir ini, terutama di negara-negara berkembang. Di Klinik Alergi RS Immanuel Bandung, setiap bulannya yang melakukan tes alergi sekitar 20-30 orang, yang konsultasi jauh lebih banyak.

“Pasien alergi di sini kebanyakan pasien rujukan dari bagian lain seperti kulit, THT, paru, anak, mata,“ kata dr. Melinda Susilo (37).

Reaksi kepekaan abnormal

Alergi adalah suatu reaksi kepekaan abnormal dari tubuh terhadap suatu benda tertentu. Orang yang alergi akan memperlihatkan gejala-gejala alergi jika terkena zat-zat tertentu.

Masih kata dr. Melinda, gejala alergi dapat timbul pada semua usia. Alergi pada dasarnya merupakan kelainan fisik. Bagaimanapun, stres emosional yang berat, rasa takut, cemas, amarah, dan rasa jengkel dapat merangsang sistem saraf sehingga memperberat atau mencetuskan timbulnya gejala alergi. Faktor pencetus lain adalah infeksi, asap rokok, polusi, cuaca dingin/panas, dan kelelahan.

Anak dengan salah seorang orang tuanya yang alergi mempunyai kemungkinan 30% menderita alergi. Akan tetapi, bila kedua orang tuanya menderita alergi, anak tersebut kemungkinan menderita alergi 60%. Selain itu, lingkungan dan pola hidup juga mencetuskan gejala alergi, misalnya debu rumah, tungau, binatang peliharaan, kecoa, jenis makanan tertentu (misalnya susu, telur, ayam), asap rokok, asap mobil, juga obat-obatan.

Terapi

Menurut dr. Lia Brasali Ariefano dari Bio E Indonesia, perkembangan terapi alergi selama ini menunjukkan kemajuan yang pesat. Awalnya, pendekatan terapi alergi hanya dengan penyuluhan untuk pasien agar menghindar dari faktor penyebab alergi tersebut. Lalu dengan berkembangnya dunia farmasi, beberapa jenis obat digunakan untuk meminimalisasi gejala yang timbul akibat alergi, misalnya antihistamin. Akan tetapi, obat-obatan ini tidak menyelesaikan permasalahan.

Pendekatan terapi beralih imunoterapi. Terapi ini melakukan pemberian berulang jenis zat yang diketahui menimbulkan reaksi alergi pada pasien tersebut. Pendekatan imunoterapi merupakan pencegahan dan perlindungan dari gejala alergi dan reaksi radang yang dapat timbul bila pasien kontak dengan alergen (zat yang menimbulkan alergi).

Terapi terkini adalah bioresonansi. Cara ini dapat mengatasi gejala alergi. Terapi ini menggunakan pendekatan ilmu fisika gelombang/kuantum, yaitu ilmu fisika yang berdasarkan pada teori Einstein.

Salah satu pengembangan ilmu biofisika ini sudah diterapkan sejak lama di bidang kedokteran pada alat rekam jantung atau yang lebih dikenal dengan EKG (elektro kardiogram).

Dalam biofisika, setiap substansi terdiri dari energi, juga menghasilkan energi. Dengan energi yang berupa gelombang/resonansi (getaran) inilah, sel-sel tubuh kita berkomunikasi satu sama lain pada frekuensi tertentu. Jika komunikasi antarsel ini berjalan harmonis, berarti orang itu ada dalam kondisi sehat. Namun, kalau komunikasi antarsel ini terganggu oleh substansi yang memiliki frekuensi gelombang lain, fungsi organ tubuh juga dapat terganggu. “Dalam kasus alergi, gangguan ini berkenaan dengan sistem kekebalan tubuh,“ ujar dr. Lia B. Ariefano, alumnus Fakultas Kedokteran Universitas Atmajaya Jakarta.

Dengan menggunakan alat Bicom Bioresonance, pola frekuensi yang menimbulkan penyakit dapat diubah menjadi pola frekuensi yang efektif dalam pemulihan fungsi kekebalan tubuh. Metode ini mampu mengeliminasi gelombang abnormal dari bahan asing/alergen dan mengalirkan gelombang normal tubuh sehingga akhirnya menghilangkan sensitivitas yang berlebihan terhadap alergen tersebut. “Dengan demikian, terapi ini merangsang tubuh untuk memulihkan fungsinya sendiri,“ ujar Lia, yang belajar bioresonansi sejak tahun 2007, dan memperdalam di Jerman pada Februari 2008.

Sebelum menjalani terapi, dokter melakukan anamnesis, yaitu melihat riwayat alergi pasien, orang tua, atau keluarga. Di sini pasien harus memberikan informasi sebanyak-banyaknya kepada dokter. Pasien dideteksi dengan Bio Tensor (sensor logam) seperti alat pancing, untuk mengetahui alergi apa yang diderita pasien. Dasar teknologi ini adalah biofisika, pasien hanya duduk santai, kemudian dokter atau terapis memegang, mengoperasikan Bio Tensor dengan tangan kanan, dan ampul berisi cairan alergen di tangan kiri. Apabila Bio Tensor bergerak mendatar/horizontal, artinya pasien tidak menderita alergi. Kalau Bio Tensor bergerak vertikal/naik turun, artinya pasien menderita alergi zat tersebut. Pasien dideteksi dengan 40 macam alergen atau lebih, yang memakan waktu sekitar 15 menit, dan hasilnya saat itu juga bisa diketahui.

Cara lain untuk mendeteksi alergi, sebelah tangan pasien memegang ampul berisi cairan alergen, tangan yang sebelah lagi diangkat kemudian oleh terapis ditekan, pasien harus menahan tekanan terapis. Kalau tidak bisa menahan/lemah, artinya pasien memang alergi. Sebaliknya, kalau bisa menahan tekanan terapis, artinya pasien tidak alergi terhadap alergen tersebut.

Terapi dibagi empat tahap dengan waktu sekitar 20-30 menit, basic therapy, geopathy, scar removal, blockage removal.

“Terapi dilakukan seminggu sekali. Sebaiknya selama menjalani terapi, pasien berhenti dulu makan makanan yang menyebabkan alergi, atau menguranginya,“ kata dr. Stella Tinia, therapist Bio E Hope Bandung.

Sembuh

“Anak saya menderita alergi ikan laut sejak bayi. Sekarang dia sudah berumur 5 tahun. Pernah satu kali saya memberikan potongan ayam dari garpu yang sudah saya lap setelah saya gunakan untuk makan ikan, tidak saya sangka mulutnya langsung bengkak dalam hitungan menit. Kemudian, suatu kali pembantu di rumah memandikan dia, setelah pembantu saya baru saja membersihkan ikan laut. Padahal, dia sudah mencuci tangannya dengan bersih lalu memandikan anak saya. Dalam hitungan menit, seluruh kulit anak saya memerah. Selain itu anak saya juga menderita asma dari kecil,” kata Yana.

Setelah 8 -10 sesi terapi. Yana mencoba memberi makan anaknya ikan laut, ternyata alergi tak datang lagi. “Syukurlah sekarang tubuhnya sudah bisa mengatasi reaksi terhadap ikan laut,“ ungkap Yana.

Lain lagi dengan Ny. Linda (45), yang menderita nyeri di kaki kiri sejak 3 tahun lalu. “Dokter bilang saya menderita rematik. Setiap kali saya menggerakkan kaki kiri, saya sering terasa sakit. Saya terus mengonsumsi obat-obatan dan nyerinya memang agak menghilang, tetapi tidak sampai 50%-nya. Kemudian, saya menjalani terapi bioresonansi. Dalam pertemuan kedua saja, sakitnya sudah sangat berkurang hingga tinggal 30% dan di pertemuan kelima hampir tidak terasa lagi,” paparnya.

Sasha, 21 tahun, setelah dideteksi, dari 40 macam alergen, ternyata ia alergi terhadap sebelas macam. “Saya tidak menduga saya alergi gula putih, cokelat, jagung, dan beras,“ kata Sasha, mahasiswa semester VI . Ia juga alergi terhadap bulu ayam, bulu angsa, bulu hamster, asap rokok, debu, serbuksari padi, tungau. “Selama ini saya selalu bersin-bersin setiap bangun tidur, pilek alias meler setiap saat dan gatal-gatal di kaki kalau habis makan sesuatu,“ tambah Sasha yang sudah 5 tahun pilek terus. Kini ia menjalani sedang dalam terapi di Bio E.

Bayu Limadjaja (27), malah alergi terhadap keringatnya sendiri. “Alergi bagi saya sudah bukan mengganggu lagi, tetapi sudah tahap `memalukan`. Karena kalau sudah basket atau berkegiatan, pasti saya garuk-garuk badan karena gatal yang tak tertahankan,“ ujar Bayu yang juga alergi benang dan formalin. Kini ia tengah menjalani terapi benang, setelah alergi keringatnya terkendalikan.

Sementara itu, Wisnu Wardhono (49) kini sedang menjalani terapi alergi untuk bersin-bersin, suara serak, dan hidungnya meler. “Terapi konvensional mulai dengan prick-test bahkan sampai hidungnya disolder sudah dijalani. Tapi kini saya mengikuti terapi bioresonansi, tidak perlu suntikan, tidak makan obat, asal rajin terapi seminggu sekali, saya yakin bisa sembuh,” katanya.

Proses terapi bioresonansi ini tidak langsung terasa, tetapi perlahan-lahan. “Kini mulai terasa lega pada pagi hari, saat bangun tidur tidak lagi bersin-bersin, hidung tidak meler. Hanya kalau kena debu rumah, buka buku-buku tua masih bersin, tetapi sebentar, “ tutur Wisnu.

Memang, kata dr. Fifi, sang pengelola Klinik Bicom, hampir semua orang di dunia ini menderita alergi. Akan tetapi, kebanyakan orang tidak menyadari bahwa dirinya alergi sesuatu atau banyak alergi.

Jadi, tak ada salahnya memeriksakan diri ke dokter ahli terapi bioresonansi bukan? (Ida F. Suliztyarto)***

Si Kecil suka Jajan...?

Si Kecil Suka Jajan?
"Si Rio bikin kepalaku pusing, setiap ada tukang jajanan lewat pasti dia merengek minta beli." Keluhan seperti itu mungkin cukup akrab di telinga. Suka jajan memang merupakan salah satu problem anak balita. Anak yang hobi jajan tak bisa disalahkan seratus persen karena sebenarnya para orangtua lah yang membentuk kebiasaan si kecil. Salah satu faktor yang menyebabkan si upik suka jajan adalah karena kurangnya variasi makanan di rumah, akibatnya anak menjadi bosan dan tergiur dengan jajanan. Ayah-ibu yang sama-sama bekerja sering menjadi alasan orangtua jaman sekarang untuk membeli makanan siap saji. Akibatnya si anak merasa membeli makanan merupakan hal yang lumrah. Pengaruh lingkungan juga merupakan faktor yang sangat berpengaruh. Biasanya anak tergiur melihat teman-temannya menyantap jajanan. Jika si anak keseringan jajan akibatnya adalah anak sulit makan. Selain itu kita tidak bisa mengetahui apakah jajanan yang disantap bersih dan aman dari bahan-bahan kimia berbahaya. Meskipun si anak sudah terlanjur hobi jajan, sebagai orangtua Anda tetap memiliki kendali. Melarang anak agar tidak jajan mungkin sulit dilakukan, tetapi Anda tetap bisa mengurangi kebiasaan jajan. Apa saja yang bisa kita lakukan? - Batasi uang saku anak dengan tetap memperhatikan pengeluaran mendadak yang mungkin dibutuhkan anak di sekolah. - Atur jajanan yang boleh dimakan si anak, misalnya sehari tak lebih dari satu. Dengan begitu si anak tidak akan menjadi rakus karena pola makannya sudah terbentuk. - Biasakan si anak untuk makan di rumah. Agar anak menyukainya, sediakan menu yang beragam. Ajak si anak menentukan menu makanan yang akan dimasak atau libatkan anak dalam kegiatan memasak. - Ajari anak untuk memilih makanan yang bersih, aman, dan sehat. - Perut lapar merupakan alasan anak untuk membeli makanan di luar. Pastikan anak menghabiskan sarapannya atau bawakan bekal yang bergizi untuk anak. Kreatiflah dalam membuat variasi menu dan tampilan yang menarik. - Kebiasaan yang ditanamkan secara konsisten dan teratur akan menghasilkan perilaku yang baik, termasuk dalam hal makan.

I am 16... going on... what? 35...? Oh Noooo! or...

I am 16 going 17.. baby it's time to think...

Itu potongan lagu dari film favorit gw... Sound of Music. Salah satu film favorit gw. Dan rasanya ngga lama yang lalu gw menunggu-nunggu pantas menyanyikan lagi itu.. karena gw bener-bener 16 going on 17.

And years later… TODAY… kemarin tepatnya… gw lagi nonton Oprah pagi sambil menikmati my morning coffee.. and yesterday the topic was… How do you manage yourself in Menopause condition. Jadi di topic ini dijelaskan, bagaimana hormonal chances and psychological changes bisa terjadi di wanita. Dan yang bikin gw ternganga-nganga adalah… Oprah menujukan acara ini untuk wanita usia 35 tahun ke atas. Karena menurut research di Amerika, saat ini wanita 35 tahun ke atas memang belum memasuki masa menopause, tetapi sudah mulai mengalami perubahan psychological.

Oh my my.. I am turning 35 this year…!!!

My hubby pernah bilang… kadang kita ngga sadar, jangan-jangan hidup yang sudah kita jalanin waktu inya ud lebih lama dari pada hidup yang akan kita jalanin. Kalau angka rata-rata kematian di Indonesia adalah 60an, maka bener buat kasus hidup gw… gw ud 35 tahun ini… dan mungkin gw ngga akan sampe 70, sehingga saat ini waktu yang gw jalanin lebih pendek daripada masa gw lahir sampe hari ini…

Dan… apa yang ud gw buat selama ini…?

Rasanya sepanjang hari kemarin jadi permenungan buat gw (biarpun ngga kelihatan merenung krn harus berhadapan ama pasien terus… hehehe…)

Masa sebentar lagi gw sudah melewat usia subur gw…? Punya anak pun belum hehehe…

Masa sebentar lagi gw harus mulai bertempur dengan osteoporosis, dislipedemia, hypertension, and all other menopause diseases?

Masa sebentar lagi harus ada yang manggil gw oma? Sedangkan sekarang kl gw dipanggil Tante aja, taring dan tanduk gw langsung keluar sangking keselnya

Dan masa yang lainnya… It’s a ‘can not believe questions…!’ hehehe…

But hey…

I am 16 going on 35… baby it’s time to be happy and grateful for anything that have happened in my life!

Yes… this is the time of my life… di mana gw ud ada dalam masa yang lebih ‘solid’ dari 35 tahun pertama dalam kehidupan gw… di mana semuanya baru berkembang, dicari, dari diexplore. Semua explorasi dan pengembangan diri pasti akan terus dilakukan, tetapi hari ini yang pasti gw lebih dewasa dari kemarin (dan mudah-mudahan lebih bijaksana dari kmrn).

Banyak kesalahan yang gw lakukan 35 tahun pertama dalam kehidupan gw, kesalahan yang menimbulkan banyak luka.

Tetapi hari ini gw memutuskan…

Tidak ada satupun dari luka itu yang mampu menghentikan langkah gw hari ini.

Tidak ada ada satupun dari luka itu yang gw ijinkan untuk menghentikan mimpi-mimpi gw tercapai.

Kata orang-orang… cewek itu paling ‘mateng’ dan sexy di usia mereka antara 30 sampe 40… wahhh… tahun ini gw bakal mencapai ke maksimal an ke matengan dan ke seksian gw karena gw ada di tengah-tengah… hahaha…!

I am 16 going on 35… baby it’s time to make your dreams come true…

Salah satunya keadaan yang membuat ini dapat tercapai adalah suami gw. Karena dia yang selalu mengingatkan gw, untuk mencapai semuanya ini… (thanks to him.. and thanks to God of course..!)

Hari ini gw bersuka-cita karena apa yang ada dalam kehidupan gw…

I am not a extra rich yet (We will heheh…), but I am rich inside.

That’s really makes my day. Everyday wakes up with hope and expectation. That everything I need and everything I dream will come to me.

Praise the Lord that today… I am 16 going on 35…

PS. Fotonya sementara yang umur 35 dulu, lagi nyari foto gw umur 16an kagak tahu di mana semua hehehe...

-dedicated for one of my aunt.. it's her birthday today!!! Happy bday T'Linda!-

Rolf and Liesl - Sixteen Going on Seventeen Lyrics

[Rolf:]
You wait, little girl, on an empty stage
For fate to turn the light on
Your life, little girl, is an empty page
That men will want to write on

[Liesl:]
To write on

[Rolf:]
You are sixteen going on seventeen
Baby, it's time to think
Better beware, be canny and careful
Baby, you're on the brink

You are sixteen going on seventeen
Fellows will fall in line
Eager young lads and rogues and cads
Will offer you food and wine

Totally unprepared are you
To face a world of men
Timid and shy and scared are you
Of things beyond your ken

You need someone older an wiser
Telling you what to do
I am seventeen going on eighteen
I'll take care of you

[Liesl:]
I am sixteen going on seventeen
I know that I'm naive
Fellows I meet may tell me I'm sweet
And willingly I believe

I am sixteen going on seventeen
Innocent as a rose
Bachelor dandies, drinkers of brandies
What do I know of those

Totally unprepared am I
To face a world of men
Timid and shy and scared am I
Of things beyond my ken

I need someone older and wiser
Telling me what to do
You are seventeen going on eighteen
I'll depend on you

I Still Date My Ex-Girlfriend

Call Me Crazy, But She Still Makes My Heart Go Pumpity-Pump

After ten years of marriage, I’m still crazy for this woman.

Being with her is my little piece of heaven on earth.

Here’s my proof: So far, I’ve had 508 romantic dates with my wife. (Yes, my wife. What were you thinking? She’s my ex-girlfriend, right?) That’s once per week for almost 10 beautiful years.

And I’ve loved every single one of them.

Our date night is sacred.

Unless it’s an invitation from the President of the Republic, I say no to all invitations and meetings. Our marriage is what it is today because of those precious 508 dates.

Call me corny. Call me deluded. Call me in denial.

But I really love being with her.

By the way, did you know my wife has magical powers?

When I’m with her, she drains my stress away. When I’m going through a rough time, all I have to do is share my problems to her, and instantly, I feel so much better. With her, I’m at home. And I rest.

I believe couples need to connect with each other in a deep way, or they will drift apart and look for attachments elsewhere.

Aside from our weekly dates, I grab special times I call “spontaneous moments of connection”.

Spontaneous Moments Of Connection

Yesterday afternoon, I came home ready to dive into my work. The usual stuff I do: articles to write, talks to prepare, meetings to plan…

But when I came home, I saw this lovely woman sitting on the couch all by herself.

I thought to myself, “Work can wait,” and I grabbed this opportunity to sit beside the greatest girl on the galaxy. It wasn’t planned. But we were able to talk and connect our hearts. Even just for a few minutes.

Life offers us these fantastic times of bonding. I’ve learned not to miss them: Being stuck in traffic with her. Or waiting for the dentist. Or lining up in the grocery. These times don’t have to be boring if you hold hands and talk.

How To Have A Great Marriage

One day, a young husband came up to me and said, “Bo, I wish my marriage will be as great as yours ten years from now…”

I only had one word for him: “Don’t wish. Decide.”

In that one line, I gave my secret to success.

That’s what separates great marriages and not-so-great marriages.

That’s what separates successful people from unsuccessful people.

Unsuccessful people wish, want, hope, desire for their dreams.

That’s not enough.

Successful people decide to make their dreams happen. Period.

That means they’ll do whatever it takes.

Nothing will stop them.

Failure is not an option.

Let me ask you: Will you do whatever it takes?

For me as a husband, it means…

o practicing “mental” monogamy

o overlooking her faults

o going out of my way to express my love

o prioritizing our dates

o leading my family to God

Note: Just in case you’re in the delusion that I’m a perfect husband, let me make this record straight. I’m far from it. Just ask my wife!

But the important thing is that I’ve decided to become a great husband. And I make that decision everyday. (I struggle towards this dream everyday!)

I’ve realized that this power of decision works in every other area in life…

How To Be A Success In Anything

I’ve also decided to be a financial success.

No ifs, no buts, no excuses. I’ll do everything it takes.

For me, that means sticking to my core gifts, getting wise mentors, reinventing myself, creating a dream team around me, and focusing on loving my customers.

I’ve also decided to be a spiritual person.

That means opening myself to God’s love, walking with integrity, and pursuing my ultimate mission of loving others.

I’ve also decided to be a healthy person.

That means going to the gym daily, eating veggies and fruits, taking supplements, and living with balance.

Don’t Wish. Decide.

“But Bo, I’ve already decided to be a success! But I guess my decision wasn’t strong enough…”

Then that means you haven’t really decided yet.

You’ve just wished.

If you remain in the level of wish, nothing happens.

You must go to the level of decision.

I’m reminded of this Chinese General who invaded an island. Upon landing on the shore, he asked his soldiers to burn their own boats. Obviously, they were shocked. When asked why would they do this insane act of burning their own boats, he said, “We’ll leave this island either as Victors or as dead men. Escape is not an option.”

That’s a decision.

And that’s the kind of decision that will make you succeed in anything.

May your dreams come true,

Bo Sanchez

Lets Talk About Dreams

Let's talk about DREAMS... :-)

Waktu gw kecil, gw bermimpi banyak hal... dari punya suami bule sampe punya istana dan tinggal bersama anjing-anjing kesayangan gw.
Dan bersama dengan berjalannya waktu... kegagalan, luka, cemooh, dan hidup yang terasa mulai tidak ramah, sang mimpi mulai menjauh pergi. Sampai akhirnya... timbul kata-kata,"Terserah deh... apa aja!"
Akhir-akhir ini... terutama sejak menikah dengan suami gw (yang bukan bule... tapi at least dia ngakunya Italiano.. hehehe..), dia banyak mengajak gw kembali bermimpi.
Dan gw kembali ke masa-masa kecil gw (look at the picture...) dan membongkar kembali kotak mimpi yang sudah gw masukan ke dalam lemari2 di hati gw.

Gw bermimpi punya RUMAH SEHAT, seperti yang ada di film Patch Adam... di mana semua orang yang datang, sesakit apapun dia, mengalami pemulihan di rumah itu. Biarpun akhirnya mungkin dia harus 'pergi', dia pergi dengan satu pengertian bahwa hidupnya berakhir dengan kemenangan dan suka cita. Gw pengen mimpi mereka diwujudkan di rumah sehat itu. Segila dan setidak mungkin apapun itu. Gw pengen setiap hari ada senyum dan tawa yang terdengar di lorong-lorong rumah sehat.
Dan saat tawa itu terdengar, tawa itu memberikan harapan kepada orang banyak saat mereka tidak kuat bangun dari tempat tidur mereka. Tawa itu merangsang pengeluaran hormon yang meringankan rasa nyeri di tubuh mereka... dan yang terutama... tawa itu memberikan satu pengetahuan... bahwa mereka akan 'baik-baik' saja karena hidup mereka berharga.

Gw bermimpi... punya SHELTER... a DOMUS (rumah) buat orang-orang yang membutuhkan
(inget film Persuit of Happiness...?), di mana mereka tinggal di sana dan tahu bahwa mereka tidak kekurangan dan mempunya masa depan. Di shelter itu akan dilakukan course-course dan workshop supaya satu hari nanti mereka bisa hidup mandiri. Dari shelter itu akan dikirim orang-orang ke seluruh negeri yang membawa anak-anak yang kekurangan gizi sehingga mereka bisa dirawat di situ. Orang tua yang terlantar dan tidak berdaya dapat tidur dengan tenang dan tidak kelaparan.

Gw bermimpi... have my own PHILHARMONIC ORCHESTRA yang main di Concerst Hall di Eropa dan Amerika... Karena gw ud ketelatan untuk jadi pemain musik, so... gw pengen gw punya satu Orchestra di mana mimpi gw bisa di wujudkan lewat kerja keras orang-orang yang punya talenta dan mimpi yang sama.
So... inspired by August Rush film (Thanks Le... for the info, and my hubby yang ud beli DVD nya hehehe...)
And this is my moms' dream too... wish she's still get a change to see one of her dream come true!


Gw bermimpi...
Satu hari nanti bisa KOLABORASI dengan OPRAH's CHARITY PROJECT... apapun itu.. Angel's Network, Leadership School, or anything...!
Her life story really inspired me.
And I really looking forward to meet her and work with her...!

Gw bermimpi… sebelum gw meninggalkan dunia ini… at least.. ada 1 buku yang gw tulis sendiri dan menjadi berkat bagi banyak orang. Don’t know how, don’t know when…

and one more... maybe this sounds weird... but I dream for my own ZOO atau at least Shelter buat anjing-anjing terlantar yang di abuse/ dibuang... pokoknya mereka bisa hidup dengan enak di situ! Kayak Steve Irwin punya di Australi... :-)

Yes these are my dreams... dan gw percaya ngga ada yang ngga mungkin...Banyak hal yang gw pikir yang ngga mungkin, bisa terjadi dalam kehidupan gw. Dan gw percaya.. it's just a matter of time! Yes... a matter of time...

Come and Go

Semuanya datang dan pergi dalam kehidupan kita.
Saat kelahiran kita merayakan kedatangan, saat pernikahan kita merayakan satu moment baru kehidupan, dan saat kematian kita melepaskan kepergian.

Begitu juga orang-orang dalam kehidupan kita.
Hanya beberapa orang yang tidak mungkin pergi dalam kenyataan keberadaan kita di dunia ini...
1. Parents (di manapun/ sampai kapanpun mereka ada, tidak pernah dapat memungkiri kenyataan dari mana kita berasal)
2. Siblings (iya kl punya, nah kl kagak...? tetapi siblings juga akhirnya datang dan pergi, apalgi setelah beranjak dewasa dan punya kehidupan masing-masing)
3. Relatives (ini apalagi... kadang ngga ada bedanya ama strangers, tapi kadang bisa sangat dekat ..:p)
4. Friends (ngga ada bedanya sama relative, bedanya cuma hubungan darah... yg hari gini menurut gw ngga terlalu penting)

Dalam kehidupan gw, dari waktu ke waktu gw mulai mengalami kedatangan dan kepergian, dan kadang... itu sangat melelahkan.
Like the picture says, it's a 'Dramaticule' alias... a drama in my life.
Orang-orang yang dulu dekat... tiba-tiba terasa jauh dan tidak terjangkau lagi. Orang yang jauh tiba-tiba datang dan memberi arti dalam kehidupan hari ini.
Gw percaya satu hal... tidak ada satupun... yang datang dalam kehidupan kita dan tidak memberi arti dalam kehidupan kita. Sekecil apapun itu...!
Jadi... hargai setiap perjumpaan, syukuri setiap kesempatan, dan cintai setiap sapaan karena itu akan memberkati kehidupan kita. With its' own way...

Akhir-akhir ini gw memilih untuk menghargai semuanya itu. Memang gw juga mengurangi frekwensi pertemuan dengan teman-teman/saudara/ siapapun yang akan mewarnai hari gw dengan gerutuan (kadang ketemu sama orang yang complaiiiiiinnnnnn terus, membuat kita jadi ikutan negative terus...), tetapi gw tetap mencari satu makna, yang mungkin ingin disampaikan lewat setiap kesempatan yang ada.
Salah satu sahabat gw dan suami (dr.Welly) pernah berkata, dari setiap orang yang ditemui... ia selalu berusaha menangkap, apa yang Allah ingin sampaikan kepada dia... (pastinya yang positive dong...) artinya... siapapun itu... mau orangnya laki/wanita, kaya/miskin, positive/negative, dll.. pasti ada yang akan disampaikan lewat semua itu.

People come and people go
And still it gives meaning in my days
I will always remember

Dr. Nathanson Shares Conversion Story

Dr. Nathanson Conversion Story

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FRONT ROYAL — When the founder of the National Association for the Repeal of Abortion Laws (NARAL) converts to Roman Catholicism and dedicates his life to the pro-life cause, heads turn.

Dr. Bernard Nathanson recently told a group at Christendom College in Front Royal the story which led to his reception into the Church by Cardinal John O’Connor of New York on Dec. 9, 1996.

Nathanson spoke of his role as a pioneer in the abortion industry, his diligence in its promotion and his retreat from the business as he realized its fundamental immorality.

Nathanson was born into a Jewish family, but was never serious about his faith and dubbed himself a "Jewish Atheist." While studying at McGill Medical School in Montreal in the 1950s, he became aware of the "injustice" to women in the lack of availability of legal abortion. Thus his career as an abortion advocate began.

He returned to his native New York and worked solely to advance the cause of abortion with the goal of legalizing the procedure. The result of his non-stop efforts was the establishment of NARAL in 1967.

Nathanson, dubbed the "abortion king" by friends, soon opened clinics which solely performed abortions. However, after only a few years in this atmosphere, he resigned from the clinic in order to pursue other duties. He had not changed his mind about abortion but while away from it he began to look at the reality of the situation.

In the mid-70s, in the dawn of what he called the "secular epiphany," Nathanson began to carefully examine what he saw in ultrasounds and sonograms. He demanded that he and his colleagues address the ethical and moral questions involved in abortion, which had never been done.

By 1977, Nathanson had answered his own questions. "My views had crystallized and it was clear that abortion was ethically and morally unacceptable," he said.

In the early 80s, after much reflection on his life, Nathanson was ready to speak for the pro-life cause. He produced and distributed the film "Silent Scream" which showed a videotaped abortion procedure. However, his dramatic presentations were inspired not by religious beliefs but by the scientific evidence which undoubtedly proved the presence of a human being in the womb.

His pro-life work was good, but it was not enough — it did not take away the guilt he felt. In 1993, Nathanson found the spiritual inspiration he was lacking. He realized that he needed forgiveness which he had never sought since leaving the abortion industry and he did not know if it was possible for him to find such mercy. Nathanson knew that he could not face eternal judgment without finding forgiveness and so he turned to a priest friend who gradually helped him to see that the forgiveness and love he needed could only be found in the Church.

He met a new found solace in the words of Christ on the Cross: "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do."

His conversion process involved much reading, which he quoted familiarly to the Christendom audience. Especially beloved was the book Pillar of Fire written by Karl Stern, who has been Nathanson’s professor at McGill.

Nathanson himself recently wrote a book about his conversion experience entitled The Hand of God. It was published just prior to his acceptance into the Catholic Church.

Nathanson had always cherished Stern’s teaching and friendship, not knowing that Stern himself was going through the process of converting from Judaism to Catholicism while Nathanson was his student. Stern’s book about his own conversion was a great comfort and inspiration to Nathanson.

Although he placed a lot of emphasis on the role of spiritual reading in his conversion, Nathanson stressed that "none of the great things of life spring from the intellect — they spring from the heart."

Ultimately, Nathanson’s heart led him to the Church, which offers forgiveness and rest to all who are searching for it.